When I was in high school in Denmark, I did not notice any particular ranking of the students, like how "popular" somebody was, whatever that means. But if one judges by American movies and TV shows, it seems that popularity in high school is spectacularly important there, even decades after one has left. I wonder if that is true in real life too?
Really, it must be an American phenomenon. Whether now or as a kid, if somebody told me something like "he's very popular", I'd go "huh?" I have no idea what it means. And I don't recall a single time in my entire life anybody has said something like that.
Brian:
"So, weren't there jocks and nerds in Danish high schools?"There kind of where, if you think about it, but there was not the heavy compartmentalizing and labeling and competition-mindedness I hear about. Everybody just did their own thing.
"Didn't the jocks get all the chicks? Did no one care about sports?! Say it ain't so!"It
is so.
Maybe these days they have organized games between schools and so on, but I don't recall any from my day (late seventies).
I think it's one of the best traits of the Danes that everything in life is not regarded as a competition. They are very laid-back. Winning is not a life or death issue.
And despite this, they have world class athletes, I guess this tells us that being super-stressed about success is not too helpful.
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BTW, how come the "high school kids" in
Grease were in their twenties? Hell, the heroine was twenty-nine!
Update:
Brian said:
Eolake, a lot of your posts here seem to be a lot of "see how inferior everything Americans do is." Maybe that's not the case but it sure seems like it some times. I'm not convinced that the hierarchy that exists in American high schools isn't a good thing. What's wrong with social competition? It sure happens in the world beyond high school.I don't wish it to seem like I want to knock Americans. I sure as heck consume with pleasure a lot more American culture and art than from any other single country, and lots of my friends are American. (Not to mention business connections and customers.)
Maybe it's the huge impact American culture has had on me which suddenly makes it stand out when I spot something I don't understand well and want to think about or talk about. I try to do it with love.
I think competition is a great thing. If it is friendly competition. If people realize that competitors are not enemies which need to be trodden into the dirt.
And I think
social competition is unfortunate, because it does not judge accomplishments, but people.