Monday, May 12, 2008

Family values


Alex said:
Though I used to think court and bedchamber were separate, I now wonder? A persons behaviour, if they are honest to themselves, should be uniform in all matters.

A public servant may be able to honour their commitments to the state, and the people they represent, while still making mistakes in their personal life.

So what does divorce say?

1) Changing loyalties
2) Indicative of commitment before fully understanding situation
3) Failure to communicate
4) Failure to resolve issues
5) Victim of coercion
6) Willing to renounce legal or religious vows.

a) Ability to fix issues, and retreat from bad situations
b) Strength to assert own right.
c) Modern thinking in matters of personal liberty.

This is what the divorces imply about the divorcees in general.

As for family values. As a parent, the commitment you make is to provide the best for your children, your partner and yourself in that order.

An abusive partnership will be a bad environment for the kids, more so than a stable separation of parental units.

Of course an abusive separation will be detrimental to the kids too, possibly more so, with abandonment and resentment coming into it.

I don't know how to classify "bored of relationship" in terms of damage to the kids.
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I think the point to be taken from the cartoon is not so much about the actual behavior, which does indeed fall inside the realm of private lives, but rather about stones and glass houses. And double standards.

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

Got to side with the caller on this one.

Anonymous said...

Oh Im sure alot of politicians have affairs and get divorced just so they can be a shining example to others of what not to do. Im sure alot of them (expecially those so vehemently opposed to it) also have gay sex just so they can prove they dont like it.

If its not affecting my security or my wallet politicians should stay the hell out of my business. Anything that conscentually and legally happens between my genitals and somebody else is nobody's business by mine. (or the people who view my website for 24.99 a minute ;))

Eolake Stobblehouse said...

Cor, how do you do that!? I'd be happy to be able to charge 24.99 per *day*.

Anonymous said...

Yeah, it is ironic that the Republican candidates who supposedly represent traditional moral family values had so many divorces among their candidates. But I do have to wonder about the definition of infidelity as far as the Clintons are concerned. But then they quibbled over the definition of "is".

Alex said...

Anything that conscentually and legally happens between my genitals and somebody else is nobody's business by mine.

Haven't we decided that legally is restrictive, intrusive and oppressive when it comes to consenting compos mentis groups.

Though I used to think court and bedchamber were separate, I now wonder? A persons behaviour, if they are honest to themselves, should be uniform in all matters.

A public servant may be able to honour their commitments to the state, and the people they represent, while still making mistakes in their personal life.

So what does divorce say?

1) Changing loyalties
2) Indicative of commitment before fully understanding situation
3) Failure to communicate
4) Failure to resolve issues
5) Victim of coercion
6) Willing to renounce legal or religious vows.

a) Ability to fix issues, and retreat from bad situations
b) Strength to assert own right.
c) Modern thinking in matters of personal liberty.

This is what the divorces imply about the divorcees in general.

As for family values. As a parent, the commitment you make is to provide the best for your children, your partner and yourself in that order.

An abusive partnership will be a bad environment for the kids, more so than a stable separation of parental units.

Of course an abusive separation will be detrimental to the kids too, possibly more so, with abandonment and resentment coming into it.

I don't know how to classify "bored of relationship" in terms of damage to the kids.

Alex said...

As noted on Round the Horne the adage "people in glass houses shouldn't" is actually complete as it stands.

(in "answers to last weeks question", can't remember which episode)