A great moment in film history.
Thursday, February 11, 2010
Women and their own beauty, and looking
This letter just came in, it's mainly a Domai issue, but has broader application, so I'll post it here also, I feel it's quite important.
Eolake
Daniel wrote:
It's encouraging to know that there are some women out there who understand their gift of beauty. Her flip side of the Domai pledge is as priceless as her beauty, for what good is beauty hidden away?
Every woman I've been lucky enough to be naked with so far has had a hard time believing that I find her beautiful. My current lover tried to hide her tummy because she (barely) has some surgery scars. The one before that couldn't believe I could be attracted to her at all because she's curvy, not skinny. The one before that knows that she has an awesome body, but can't understand why men look at her. She would tell me, "That guy just looked me up and down! Why do men DO that?"
Each one would notice me looking at them and say, "What?" as if she thought that I'd noticed some flaw or blemish. I'd say, "I just like looking at you." Then I'd point out her best features while she'd give me skeptical looks.
With patience and time, a wonderful thing happened. Each woman finally accepted my insistence that she was beautiful. Each one eventually relaxed and even posed for me.
Some of my most cherished memories are of seeing these women blossom before my eyes. It's more than just being comfortable in their own skin, it's a kind of confidence that they are acceptable, valuable, desirable; that it's normal for a man to enjoy looking at them. The more they believed in their own beauty, the more beautiful they became, for my benefit and others, but mostly for their own.
It taught me the importance of acknowledging a woman's beauty for her sake.
Today, in a hardware store, I noticed a stunning brunette walking towards me. She noticed me and closed her coat, looked away, and kind of turned away as she walked past. I was shocked at the volume of her body language, "Don't look at me!" As I recovered from this non-verbal slam, another pretty brunette turned down the aisle. She saw me looking and smiled. She walked a little more upright, put some spring in her step, and caught my eye. I returned her smile and looked her up and down. Returning my gaze to her eyes, her unmistakable unspoken look said, "You're welcome."
Both these women wore wedding rings. I could only wonder what made the difference. I think at some point some man convinced the second one of the value of her beauty. The first obviously didn't have that experience, even from her husband. I felt a little sad for her.
Not only do men need to look, women need to believe they are lookable.
Daniel
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Back to Eolake:
I'm curious about the "That guy just looked me up and down! Why do men DO that?" part. This is not unusual. Doesn't she enjoy looking at a nice hunk herself? And if she does, does she hide it, and why?
I guess the belief is that somehow you're hurting a person by looking at them?
Eolake
Daniel wrote:
It's encouraging to know that there are some women out there who understand their gift of beauty. Her flip side of the Domai pledge is as priceless as her beauty, for what good is beauty hidden away?
Every woman I've been lucky enough to be naked with so far has had a hard time believing that I find her beautiful. My current lover tried to hide her tummy because she (barely) has some surgery scars. The one before that couldn't believe I could be attracted to her at all because she's curvy, not skinny. The one before that knows that she has an awesome body, but can't understand why men look at her. She would tell me, "That guy just looked me up and down! Why do men DO that?"
Each one would notice me looking at them and say, "What?" as if she thought that I'd noticed some flaw or blemish. I'd say, "I just like looking at you." Then I'd point out her best features while she'd give me skeptical looks.
With patience and time, a wonderful thing happened. Each woman finally accepted my insistence that she was beautiful. Each one eventually relaxed and even posed for me.
Some of my most cherished memories are of seeing these women blossom before my eyes. It's more than just being comfortable in their own skin, it's a kind of confidence that they are acceptable, valuable, desirable; that it's normal for a man to enjoy looking at them. The more they believed in their own beauty, the more beautiful they became, for my benefit and others, but mostly for their own.
It taught me the importance of acknowledging a woman's beauty for her sake.
Today, in a hardware store, I noticed a stunning brunette walking towards me. She noticed me and closed her coat, looked away, and kind of turned away as she walked past. I was shocked at the volume of her body language, "Don't look at me!" As I recovered from this non-verbal slam, another pretty brunette turned down the aisle. She saw me looking and smiled. She walked a little more upright, put some spring in her step, and caught my eye. I returned her smile and looked her up and down. Returning my gaze to her eyes, her unmistakable unspoken look said, "You're welcome."
Both these women wore wedding rings. I could only wonder what made the difference. I think at some point some man convinced the second one of the value of her beauty. The first obviously didn't have that experience, even from her husband. I felt a little sad for her.
Not only do men need to look, women need to believe they are lookable.
Daniel
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Back to Eolake:
I'm curious about the "That guy just looked me up and down! Why do men DO that?" part. This is not unusual. Doesn't she enjoy looking at a nice hunk herself? And if she does, does she hide it, and why?
I guess the belief is that somehow you're hurting a person by looking at them?
The Innocence Mission - Bright As Yellow
[Thanks to Julie and Laurie]
Talking about yellow...It's a bold choice to make that music video, and do it without a drop of yellow in it. I doubt I could manage to do that.
I hadn't heard of this band before, but it's looking like this one is Their Good Song.
Wednesday, February 10, 2010
Sheramy Bundrick
I found this author by accident in an image search, I think she's gorgeous. But then I got interested in her novel Sunflowers about van Gogh. I'll try it out. (Author interview.)
It interests me that I'm actually willing to pay four dollars more for the Kindle edition, just for the speed and convenience. Despite the fact that I think it's just wrong to charge more for a product with far less overhead expenses.
I was impressed with the delivery speed of the Kindle sample. I woke up my iPod Touch, started the Kindle app, went to the home page, and it was already there!
Making an iPhone app
Can anybody tell me how to learn how to make and publish an iPhone app? I an not a programmer and I don't want to become one, but it just needs to be a very simple app, based on a short e-book. It consists of super-short (half-page) inspirational-type chapters. It could just be an ebook and it will be that, but I think I can get a bigger market for it by adding a little bit of sizzle and interactivity and publishing it as an iPhone app also.
New: Canon T2i (updated)
New: Canon T2i. Amazon link.
If you like megapixels, this is the ticket. Eighteen MP in an "entry-level" camera!
Even if one thinks this is overdoing it, as I tend to, I have learned that mucho megapixels, while not always the great advantage some think they are (very demanding of lenses for example), are not really a downside at least, and can be useful. In any case this is a hot camera for eight hundred bucks, that's for dang sure.
Update: it has full HD, and more importantly, takes an external microphone!
Weird pics
[Thanks Anna]
It seems Hannah Montana is keen to shake her sexualized image!
They say this crab is real! I'm in doubt though. (Update: Mike points here.) I'm amazed to learn that there are crabs which live on land, breathe with lungs, and can climb trees!
Airports are conscientious.
Koooool cloud. (Dave points here.)
Pics are from here.
Tuesday, February 09, 2010
Tingling update
Apart from going back to my Rollermouse, I'm also now trying some software called StretchWare. As you can imagine, it's simple various stretch exercises with a timed reminder to do them. The interface is a little out of date, but that matters less, it feels good to do the stretches, and I'm looking forward to seeing the long term effects.
Duffy photographer
Another nice tOP pick: a long video docu about classic English 60's photographer Brian Duffy.
It's claimed that back then, the photographers were the stars, particularly three of them.
If it tempts you, Joanna Lumley is there, both in present version and a very young one in 1967.
This is too funny: in the second half they talk about the creation of the cover for Bowie's Aladdin Sane. The specific purpose for everything they did was that it should be as expensive as possible, to get the record company on their toes!
He is a bit of a dick though.
It's claimed that back then, the photographers were the stars, particularly three of them.
If it tempts you, Joanna Lumley is there, both in present version and a very young one in 1967.
This is too funny: in the second half they talk about the creation of the cover for Bowie's Aladdin Sane. The specific purpose for everything they did was that it should be as expensive as possible, to get the record company on their toes!
He is a bit of a dick though.
Ron Mueck – Hyper Realist Sculptor
Monday, February 08, 2010
Too Much Sex Can Cause Wrist Pain
Too Much Sex Can Cause Wrist Pain, article.
"The missionary position puts a lot of pressure on the wrists of the individual on top. That can result in an over-straining and stretching and even tearing of tissue, which could contribute to carpal tunnel syndrome." Increases in the number of sufferers coincided with the launch of new drugs such as Viagra, according to the research.
I knew there had to be a reason I never got carpal, despite heavy computer use.
Thanks to Jan. He pointed to the article as a joke, but he reminded me that a couple of months ago, I changed away from the Rollermouse, and this may have been causing my neck/arm problems! Since I couldn't feel any strain when using a mouse, I could not imagine it could cause any damage. But maybe I better start imagining! I don't want to get into the crippled condition I was in two years ago, posts here, here, here, here. I first got the Rollermouse after that disaster.
"The missionary position puts a lot of pressure on the wrists of the individual on top. That can result in an over-straining and stretching and even tearing of tissue, which could contribute to carpal tunnel syndrome." Increases in the number of sufferers coincided with the launch of new drugs such as Viagra, according to the research.
I knew there had to be a reason I never got carpal, despite heavy computer use.
Thanks to Jan. He pointed to the article as a joke, but he reminded me that a couple of months ago, I changed away from the Rollermouse, and this may have been causing my neck/arm problems! Since I couldn't feel any strain when using a mouse, I could not imagine it could cause any damage. But maybe I better start imagining! I don't want to get into the crippled condition I was in two years ago, posts here, here, here, here. I first got the Rollermouse after that disaster.
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