By popular request, more examples of my motti.
Don't let others steal your time.
Appreciate yourself as well as you do your best friends.
In the end, your only judges are yourself and the Universe.
Conflict is almost always a waste of time and energy.
Your belief in yourself, your desires, and your perceptions is of paramount importance.
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Thank you, David.
Loneliness is grim and counterproductive, but one should never get so victimized by it that one spends hours and hours with people who have nothing positive and nothing important to say.
I confess, I am bad for letting others steal my time, but somewhere down the line, I always get something out of it, in terms of long-standing friendships from people who always know that I have time for them.
I would probably miss some of the people if I shooed them away, because
they are part of my ..well.. as Vonnegut would say......karass...!!
But, good advice there, Eolake!!
I don't let others steal my time, I give it freely and without expectation. Therefor I am not disappointed when nothing happens, and am pleasently surprised when I do get something back.
Eolake-
I'm curious about this one:
"Your belief in yourself, your desires, and your perceptions is of paramount importance."
Why do you consider these self-centered beliefs to be of "paramount" importance?
Yeah, because if you don't have those, you have nothing, and you can accomplish nothing. You will notice that all the people who have accomplished great things for humanity have had very strong belief in themselves.
Mark,
Interesting thoughts...I know what you mean, but perhaps conflict is not exactly the term.
I have a few friends who I enjoy "jousting" with. It is fun, and affectionate in a sort of way, but not actually "conflict", which is a liitle more aggressive.
Conflict, is about agression, and I agree with Eolake, that conflict is counter-productive, but, jousting, sounds more like what you are describing.
I have to confess, that as a Glaswegian, and, like most Glaswegians, I love New York, because it is like my own fair City, only much larger, and the personality is the same.
But, it is different from conflict.
We have fun and sport with each other about our differing views on life, without conflict.
What you describe as `bear play`, I would call `jousting`, it`s the same thing, just a different label, but there is no real conflict there.
It is playful, enlightening, heated at times, dependant on the politics, but, without real conflict.
I have enjoyed the same jousting in New York as I have at home, and it was always really interesting, envigourating, and fun, and we were all still great friends throughout!
I know what you mean, but it isn`t really conflict!
Glaswegians really do love New YOrk, it`s a home from home!!!
I agree with Zeppellina that Jousting is a more appropriate label for what Mark said.
Conflict implies intent, and implies a force of will, and/or a need to dominate in some sense. This is always a waste of energy.
That said, conflict can be forced on you, and you then have to respond correctly. This does rob of of energy and time.
The `jousting` thing goes on between people all the time in Glasgow, I think it is just part of the personality of the City.
In bars all over the City, politics, the problems of the world and the mysteries of the Universe are being discussed, and views shared information exchanged, and debated.
It`s lively, interesting, and a way of getting to know each others views on life.
It is seen as a testament to our friendship that we can freely delve into complex discussions and debates with each other.
Old friendships are often strengthened, and new friendships forged.
And always new information and opinions on interesting topics are gained.
If my friends and I constantly felt we had to play safe with each other in conversation, we would perhaps wonder if our friendship was really that strong in the first place.
It`s perhaps just a regional personality thing!
"If my friends and I constantly felt we had to play safe with each other in conversation, we would perhaps wonder if our friendship was really that strong in the first place."
I can see that viewpoint.
One person who used to be one of my closest friends has a well-controlled, but still very strong temper, like myself. There was never a problem with teasing and frank exchange of opinions. But in the past couple of years, and don't ask me what the hell happened, we can't talk anymore without getting into one disagreement or another, and we both get so pissed off that any joy is just gone from the conversation. He feels I changed, I feel he changed.
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