"My View on Coed Sleepovers", article about the paradoxes of gender-separation.
My father was one of those people, though liberal and laid-back, who could not imagine a man and a woman hanging out without sex on the menu.
Once, my sister, then in her twenties, had a male friend sleep over. There was no correcting my dad's assumption that they had had sex, so I guess nobody even tried. (I remember though this guy being apparently so hot that my sister said she had to leave the room when he stripped to his Speedos. :-)
When I was in twenties, I had an art exhibition in Copenhagen. My dad and his girlfriend came by. By nice coincidence, a lovely friend came by, on rollerskates and everything, and all were introduced, it was a nice afternoon. Later when talking to dad, it was clear that he took it for granted that she and I were an item. I did nothing to disabuse him of the idea.
It's not just about sleepovers, but even lunch, dinner, movies...
ReplyDeleteI spent my teens in Spain, where a guy and a girl can have lunch, dinner, a stroll in the park, go to a movie, a museum, or whatever, without it being "a date". Women and men are friends with each other whether they are married or not.
None of the above happens in the US as far as I can tell. If you are married, you are prohibited by American society to be friends with someone of the opposite sex.
Unless one of them is ugly.
ReplyDeleteA 16-year-old dude not interested in sex?! Yeah, RIGHT! I suspect that there were plans for a BJ slipped in there, somewhere! After all, that ain't considered "sex" by most! Heck, we even had a Prez who claimed same! I guess if the "favor" ain't returned, it's not considered "sex!" :-/
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry: I don't "get" this "co-ed sleepover" thing. That's for GIRLS!! Dudes sleeping over for...why? They can go home, after the movies (or whatever; nail painting?!) and come back, the next morning, for breakfast, if they are *so* into being w/the gurls (yeah, RIGHT, again!).
Guys are interested in their 'score' but gals are interested in who wins the game.
ReplyDeleteTake a fucking valium, TC.
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