It must be difficult to be a beautiful girl.
One of the most central problems of life is trying to be a mind instead of an object. And beautiful people, particularly women, are rewarded continually for being an object. It must be very hard to step above that.
What a beautiful thought!!
ReplyDeleteEspecially coming from someone who runs a site about female beauty, this really is a beautiful thought, I agree.
ReplyDeleteActually the thing I love about said site is that - to my eye - the beauty of a mind sometimes shines through the beauty of the body. Sometimes, not always.
The real gems portray a beautiful personality that lives in a beautiful body.
We all have our cross to bear. Complaining about being beautiful would be like Bill Gates complaining about how awful it is too have so much money you can't spend it all.
ReplyDeleteIf a beautiful woman has a mind as well then it will be recognized, if they bother to put it to use - and too often the beautiful don't. There are numerous exceptions, so no one needs to point any of them out.
Everyone has problems and challenges to overcome. Having money and/or looks doesn't make life easy but I'd have to think it's easier than the alternative.
ReplyDeleteThat's quite possible. I was thinking more about spiritual advancement than having an easy life, though.
ReplyDeleteSpiritual advancement? Who cares about that? And how can you measure it anyway? Those are serious questions - I'd like to know. Maybe I'm too much of a meat-and-potatoes, nuts-and-bolts kind of guy, but I've never gone in for that spirtuality stuff or religion or anything irrational.
ReplyDeleteThe first one is easy. Me and some of my friends. And a few million others.
ReplyDeleteThe second one is very hard. But for me it has something to do with peace and joy, and a connection to a higher power.
(Commenting on original observation)
ReplyDeleteIt's funny you should mention that. I was thinking exactly the same thing yesterday when I bought a newspaper from a drop-dead gorgeous 10/10 hottie at the local newsagent.
In the brief time I was there she had to fend off a couple of potential Romeos, and cope with exaggerated deferential treatment from all the other men in the shop.
But still - she had done her hair attractively, she was wearing make-up and tight-fitting clothes... ...she could avoid such attention very easily by toning down her appearance. I guess she liked it - but- she was only about 20.
You can tell a lot about someone by how they respond to/ deal with fatties and/or uglies.
"And how can you measure it anyway?"
ReplyDeleteIt is the degree to how much joy/fun/pleasure you experience right now.
The now part is key. For now is all there really is.
You will notice that religions will try to get you to give away your fun now, in return for something better in the future. Christians promise "salvation". Other religions promise other things. Don't buy into that. It is a classic con. Go for maximum fun and pleasure now.
The you part is also key. For this is your life.
You will notice that religions will try to get you to discount yourself and get you to put others before yourself. Don't buy into that. It is a classic con. Go for maximum fun and pleasure for yourself.
That's all there is to it. Of course, fun and pleasure mean different things to different people. And hence it can only be "measured" subjectively. But at least the goal is clear.
I think there's a lot of truth to what you're saying. Only problem is that with the way you say it, it could be mistaken for hedonism.
ReplyDeleteI guess that's why so many beautiful people have a hard time in life... Marilyn Monroe for instance. She was fending off marriage and sexual proposals probably from before she hit puberty. She developed the ability to deflect rudeness as well as unwanted attention, but it was a heavier and heavier cost to her personally. Read de Dienes' book about his early experiences with her for examples. And yet, her charm in deflecting attention was matched by her desire for fame and favorable attention/experiences. The fact that she was used and exploited by so many in the course of her less than 40 years was a product of both.
ReplyDeleteOn a positive note, several very beautiful female friends of mine have done very well for themselves spiritually. One is the daughter of a Unitarian minister who has undertaken a very spiritual set of challenges, and another is an aspiring artist. Both meditate... what their other secrets are I cannot say! But I daresay they have both been effective at deflecting unwanted male interest, in their own way.
Monroe's family history of mental illness might have had something to do with it. A bit more than being beautiful.
ReplyDeleteThe second one is very hard. But for me it has something to do with peace and joy, and a connection to a higher power.
ReplyDeleteI'd like to see someone prove the existence of a higher power. I'd never get very far in AA - I wouldn't get beyond Step 1.
I'd like to see someone prove the existence of a higher power.
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Joe Dick said...
ReplyDelete"Maybe I'm too much of a meat-and-potatoes, nuts-and-bolts kind of guy"
Right. I always figured you were a little bolts. ;-)
"And how can you measure it anyway?"
I heard that Jesus of Nazareth's advancement was over three gigaHaloes. That's downright awesome. You could comfort a whole galaxy and still have some to spare. (Um... or was that 7.3 GHals? Maybe I'm mixing up his and Buddha's figures.)
"You will notice that religions will try to get you to give away your fun now, in return for something better in the future."
The Churches present it as an investment. Interestingly, you invest with THEM, so you have to ask yourself why they prefer to "spend now, start paying back next life"...
"Only problem is that with the way you say it, it could be mistaken for hedonism."
I fail to see a problem of any sort with hedonism. Beats ascetism any day. :-)